How I Found My Inner Peace
To find your passion, you first need to find yourself — and your peace. Instead of telling you how to do it, I’ll share how I found mine.
Throughout my life, I always craved stability and sought joy, no matter the circumstances. I moved schools often, witnessed family arguments, dealt with relatives who wouldn’t speak to each other, and never had a stable father figure. Not having my real dad and lacking stability at home made me feel like I had to grow up too fast. We didn’t have much, and when my siblings asked my mom for things, I knew we couldn’t afford them. So, I always stepped aside and let them have what they wanted. It didn’t bother me — I just wanted peace at home.
When I was young, I was great at being there for others, but I rarely shared anything about myself. I never wanted to burden anyone with my problems. I always felt I had to be strong for my family. But as I got older, I started to feel jealousy and sadness for not having what other kids had — a stable, loving home. I knew I wasn’t alone in my struggles, but I still longed for that sense of security and care.
Despite everything, I’m truly grateful for those experiences. Feeling alone and unworthy helped me get to know myself more deeply. It made me stronger. I realized that I had become a people-pleaser, focused too much on making others happy, and not on my own needs. I lacked boundaries and constantly sought validation, trying to prove I was good enough. I kept telling myself everything was fine, ignoring my own needs because I wanted to show I could handle anything.
But the truth is, I couldn’t handle it all. Some of the battles I fought weren’t even mine, but I took them on because I didn’t know any better. It wasn’t until later that I realized how much pain I was carrying in my heart, and how it made me feel worthless. I didn’t see that trying to be something for someone else was hurting me — and in the process, I lost myself.
Now, I understand that I am enough, just as I am, without needing anyone’s approval. I’ve forgiven those who hurt me, and I’ve forgiven myself for letting fear, self-doubt, and the opinions of others control my life. I’m still healing, but I’m learning how to care for my peace and my heart.
Here’s what I’ve learned: Once you find yourself, forgive others and yourself, and start believing that you are enough, you’ll still face new challenges. You’ll have to learn how to accept the good things and people that come into your life. You’ll need to unlearn old habits and embrace new ways of thinking to find true peace in your heart. There will be moments it feels like you’re starting over, but you’ll have a fresh awareness of who you are.
To find your inner peace, trust yourself. Believe that you are everything you desire to be. Life will present many challenges, but those challenges will help you grow stronger. You have to trust that God is guiding you through them, preparing you for something greater.
The journey won’t be easy, especially if you’ve gone through trauma or difficult experiences. You’ll have moments of anger and sadness, and it’s important to sit with those emotions. Truly feeling them is an essential part of healing.
And for those who have hurt you, if there’s something you need to say, make sure it comes from a place of setting boundaries, not attacking. You have the right to say, “I will no longer accept what isn’t mine.” That negative energy — you don’t have to carry it anymore. You are a human being with feelings, and you matter too.
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